The Problem with Guilt Part 1: Guilt Implies We’ve Done Something Wrong!


I LOVE Law & Order. I watch it on one of the local stations every Wednesday & Thursday. I watch other crime shows as well but Law & Order allows me to see the police do their job & the prosecutors do their job. So I see courtroom action every episode. Most episodes, at some point, a judge asks the defendant, “How do you plead?” And they have to say Guilty or not guilty. Most of the time, they say not guilty so the show can continue rather than ending early! 😊
Funny how even the most guilty person pleads not guilty in the hopes they can get away with whatever crime they are accused of committing. Not so much with mommies. We tend to plead guilty over the most minor infraction. And most of the time, WE AREN’T EVEN GUILTY OF ANYTHING!!!!!
As I see it, guilt implies we have done something wrong. Not just wrong in our own eyes but wrong according to society standards. If a person cheats on their spouse, they are guilty of adultery. Not passing judgement here. Just saying this sort of behavior should be avoided. If a parent mistreats a. Hold, especially to an extreme, they are guilty of abuse. This is just NOT acceptable behavior.
If however you are unable or unwilling to buy your child the newest toy that EVERYONE has, you may feel bad but you should NOT feel guilty. You haven’t done anything wrong. Your kids may disagree but they would be wrong!
I believe most of the time we feel guilty, what we really are is afraid. We fear what others may think. We fear what they may say. We fear we might be harming our children. And to make matters worse, we going onto the court of public opinion, known as social media, and display our sense of guilt so other may judge us. And judge us they will. I have never seen so many glass house residents throw around so many stones! Perhaps it makes others feel less guilty when they judge others.
All I know is we need to stop calling it guilt. The more we tell ourselves,how guilty we feel, the more we reinforce our feelings of inadequacy & failure. Which only makes us feel more guilty, more afraid.
So, to begin this journey away from guilt, become more aware when you tell yourself how guilty you feel and, as Barney Fife would say, ” Nip it in the bud!”
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I’m Simply Jeanann!


I am a complicated woman helping other women simplify their lives. I’ve been in this hole before & I know the way out! Recovering Guilty Mommy! Offering advice, ideas, tips, inspiration & more to help women reawaken the joy in their lives & enabling them to answer God’s call!

Hi! I’m Jeanann Duckworth. I’m a complicated woman who has dedicated her life to helping other women simplify their lives. Actually, I’m not very complicated. I have simply experienced a variety of things during my life, worked in an assortment of fields. I have a Bachelor of Science in Communications & Psychology & a Master of Divinity in General Ministry.

Rather than pastoring a church, I was called to help women improve the quality of their lives by teaching them ways to eliminate guilt,fight fear, strengthen faith, reduce their stress, and empower their lives with joy. 

I love ministering to women, speaking to large groups & having a lot of fun. I enjoy teaching practical ways to apply Scripture to our lives as much as I enjoy teach ways to make life easier & more enjoyable.

This site enables me to share information to empower women. It’s time for bold action & God has given us a bold spirit for this time. I know you can’t act with boldness until you face the issues in your life that make you weak & powerless, primarily guilt & fear.

I am also a strong STRONG believer in small groups for women. Women need a strong network as her foundation in order to have a strong self identity. Too many of us have neglected our network, leaving us feeling vulnerable. Joining with other women in small groups creates a powerful force as women pray, study, fellowship, & minister to one another in the group & to the world at large.

This is an exciting time for women. We have an opportunity to make a powerful impact on our families, communities, nation, & world. Are you ready to join me?

Thanks for stopping by! Drop over any time!

Hugs & blessings! I remain

Simply Jeanann